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- Dealing with Depression
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- QUESTION: My bride of many years is causing me much anguish these days, and I
- don't know where to turn. While she has always been a loving woman, she has
- changed. It was gradual at first but now the problem is very noticeable. She
- won't go out any more, and won't let friends or neighbors visit. She has
- become a restless sleeper, and always seems so tired. That's when she is not
- raging around the room, being ugly and angry. She driving me batty. What do
- you think is wrong with her and what can I do about it? I think I am
- catching her illness. Please help.
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- ANSWER: Although a diagnosis of this sort really requires a good history
- taking session to obtain all the details, you have provided enough information
- to permit an educated guess that should come quite close to the mark. Your
- wife seems to be going through a period of depression, and the ever increasing
- severity of the symptoms means that you will have to do something soon. All
- of the situations you tell of, restless sleep, fatigue, withdrawing from
- social activities and friends, and irritability, can be seen in depression. A
- good medical history could possibly reveal other clues to the depressive
- state. Certainly if she experienced any episodes of depression in her younger
- days, in adolescence for example, the probability that this is now her
- diagnosis is increased.
- However, depressive symptoms may also be the first warning signs of true
- medical illnesses, such as chronic infections, neurologic diseases such as
- Parkinson's and even some types of cancers. Obviously, a thorough medical
- examination is necessary, and you will have to be the motivating force. It is
- obvious that your wife's present mental state does not permit her to make all
- the proper decisions, and she probably won't share your desire for medical
- care. Yet it is most important, for medical or mental depressions do not
- disappear on their own. And there are treatments available for both that can
- dramatically change the picture. A complete workup is the recommended route
- to establish the diagnosis and dictate the appropriate therapy and treatment.
- Besides psychological treatment, physicians today have a wide choice of
- antidepressants which can be tailored to fit almost every situation. Many of
- them can work their benefits with but a minimum of undesirable side effects.
- You have two other obligations in this situation. The first is to
- maintain your own equilibrium. Yes, depression can some times seem to be
- infectious, as you allow your wife's perceptions of reality to influence your
- own thinking. Drawn into her shrinking world, bordered by anxiety and fear,
- you too may be cut off from the social relationships that make for healthy
- living. You must maintain your contacts with friends and neighbors, or better
- yet, any members of your family who live close enough to be of help. Many
- depressives will act more rationally when several people are present, and your
- task of convincing your wife to seek the care she needs may be accomplished
- with a bit more ease.
- The second task is a crucial one. Depression is often linked with ideas
- of suicide or recurrent thoughts of death. Suicides and even accidents are
- more common in depressed individuals, and account for a large percentage of
- deaths. A depressed person can become very cagy in hiding these feelings, or
- concealing their intent. That puts a caregiver in a very precarious position,
- as maintaining a constant guard is fatiguing and sometimes impossible.
- Getting your wife into proper care is therefore a most important priority for
- her health and yours.
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- The material contained here is "FOR INFORMATION ONLY" and should not replace
- the counsel and advice of your personal physician. Promptly consulting your
- doctor is the best path to a quick and successful resolution of any medical
- problem.
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